How To Charm A Woman In Bed – Turn Your Girl Naughty ‘In Bed’

Congratulations! You have found a good girl. She’s cute, sexy, sweet, caring, funny, faithful … and best of all, she’s into you. You’ve done good! And, your friends are all jealous. (Maybe you used some of the powerful attraction and seduction tips from our other reports. Or maybe you’re just a natural. Either way, you’re happy!)

There’s just one problem … She is a “good” girl in the bedroom as well. And, that’s the one place that you wish she could be a little more open, a bit more adventurous … and a bit more “bad.”

Yes, you’d like to turn your “nice” girl naughty. So, she can start doing more of the things you want during sex. All of those things that you’ve enjoyed before or even fantasized about.

But hey, nobody has the “perfect” girl, right? Wrong.

There are many “perfect” girls out there. Especially when it comes to what she can do with you, and to you, in the bedroom. The tricky part is, they don’t always arrive perfect. And, other times, they can be naughtier than you think…but, they just haven’t felt comfortable (or connected) enough with you to show you.

Whatever the situation may be, you can fix it – if you know how … and you can turn your nice girl naughty! The advice and tips I share in this report will help you to get her there … quicker and easier than you’d think …

Hungry Like the Wolf …

Guys tend to have a one-track mind. Once they decide that they want something, they often cannot see beyond their immediate desire. They can’t see beyond what’s right in front of them. And, they are also used to attacking their problems head on, and repeatedly … like hungry wolves … until they break through to the other side or seriously bump their head and give up.

Many may come back, after their head is healed, and start attacking at the problem the same way they did before. They didn’t learn anything from the last experience, and they didn’t change their approach at all. As I stated above … they have a one-track mind.

For example, I know many guys who would love to receive oral sex from the girl they are seeing, dating, living with or married to. And, the only way that they know how to try to get what they want is by asking her repeatedly, begging her, pressuring her, making her feel guilty, tricking her, or even forcing her.

Obviously, none of those methods work. And, if it does work on rare occasions, it also tends to associate all kinds of negative memories and emotions in the woman’s mind … which can only make it harder still to get her to perform oral sex for you in the future.

I’d like to suggest a different approach … one that actually works much better.

Instead of approaching her with the request/problem/order head on, you have to be more subtle – and even a bit “sneaky” – about it. Moreover, you should try to make her believe that it’s her idea – and her decision – to do whatever it is that you’d like her to do for you.

Nobody wants to feel pressured, forced, or even persuaded into doing anything. They will actually be pushed away further. Think about it this way …

… What do you do when a pushy salesman comes up to you and tries to repeatedly convince you into buying whatever he is selling? You close up, don’t you? You put your guard up. You want the interaction to end immediately, and you want him to leave.

Even if what he has to sell is something you’re interested in. (Yes…interesting, isn’t it?) In fact, you may not even want your best friend, or even your girlfriend, to pressure or force you into doing anything, right? Even if that thing happens to be something you may have considered doing otherwise.

All of us want to feel like we’re in control of our decisions and our lives. Well guess what … your girl is the same way. Everyone is. Surprise, surprise. Now … here are a few tried-and-tested ways to get her to start being more naughty in the bedroom, without nagging, begging, or forcing her into it …

How To Charm A Woman In Bed Lesson # 1 – Back Off

First of all, if you have been requesting, begging, pressuring, and especially forcing her into doing something for you that she isn’t (yet) open to – or comfortable with doing, you must back off immediately.

For example, if it’s blowjobs, just stop talking about or bringing up that subject completely… and give her mind some time to cool off.

Don’t even bring up the subject jokingly. Don’t give her any strange (or even subtle) looks if the subject comes up around you. Don’t even sulk, look upset, sad, nor angry if the subject does come up somehow. Just drop it completely. This is a very important first step… so I hope that you really “get” this part.

How long should you not discuss this subject at all? Until you’ve had sex with her at least 5 times since you first stopped talking about the subject. Or about 21 to 30 days. Whichever fits your situation. (Of course, if you happen to have sex everyday – without persuading or pressuring her into having sex that often, then give it at least 2 weeks.)

During this time, pleasure her by doing all the things that she loves doing and receiving, during sex. If she starts wondering about or questioning your motives, especially if she’s not used to getting all this attention from you, simply say, “I just want you to be happy.” And, say it with sincerity and a smile.

Doing the above can sometimes be enough to make her want to do more for you. But, don’t anticipate nor expect that to happen.
And, if at some point, she does ask what she can do for you, do not shift back into the “hungry wolf” mode by giving her a list of things she should do for you.

Instead, just say, “I want you to only do what you’re comfortable with.” This may seem counter-intuitive to you right now, but just do it.

If she starts giving you even stranger looks, you can add… “I know I’ve been an ass in the past, and tried to pressure you into doing stuff you don’t like. And, I don’t want to do that anymore, because I care about you. And I want you to be happy. And I especially want you to be comfortable and enjoy yourself when we have sex.”

You get the idea. If you’ve made her feel bad about stuff in the past, man up and apologize. Then let know that her comfort, enjoyment, and happiness is more important to you. And, mean what you say! Like I said, be sincere.

After the cooling off period is over, you can try the other tips and techniques shared below …

How To Charm A Woman In Bed Lesson # 2 – Invite Her In … Gently

The next important piece you should understand is, you must ease her into whatever it is that you’d like her to do with, or for, you. You can’t get her mind to “jump” from the “missionary position” stage to the “anal sex” stage overnight, no matter how much you would like for that jump to happen immediately.

It just doesn’t work that way. It’s too big of a jump.

Think of it this way … you can’t go from being a mail room worker to president of the company overnight. You must graduate to all the levels/positions in between, one at a time.

Otherwise, it’s just too big (and too impossible) of a jump to go from mail room worker to president. Her capacity for sexual naughtiness is the same way, and should be approached similarly. So … instead of trying to make any sudden and major jumps, first of all figure out where she is right now, mentally…as far as her sense of sexual adventure is concerned. And, start building on that …

How To Charm A Woman In Bed Lesson # 3 – Fantasize With Her

Let me point out the important piece of the process from the above section … find out where she is mentally.

You see, most people don’t just start doing something that they’ve never done unless they have imagined doing that thing in their mind, first. Because, the mind is the starting point for everything. If you can get her to start fantasizing about more adventurous and naughty things first, she will be a lot more likely to do those things, in the future.

That is why, you must start with her mind, i.e. start by getting her to imagine doing what you want her to do. The best time to get her mind to start thinking naughtier than she’s used to is when she’s already turned on. Her mind is more open to (and carefree about) naughty thoughts when she’s already “in the mood.”

Now remember … this is not so much about getting her to do anything for you. It’s more about getting her mind to think and imagine doing naughty things … so that she can first become comfortable thinking about such things.

It’s about getting her to fantasize …it’s about getting her to fantasize with you … it’s about getting her to feel comfortable about fantasizing with you. And, that is why you should introduce this technique when she is already turned on and/or having sex with you. Here’s how you can do this …

As you’re having sex with her, you can start whispering fantasies into her ear. Start out with the simpler and less naughty stuff first, obviously.

For example, you could start by describing the two of you being somewhere else … maybe in Hawaii. Maybe you’re having sex on the beach, at night, when no one is around.

The above non-threatening yet slightly naughty fantasy will start to open her mind up to fantasizing with you. The key is to get her to start enjoying these “shared fantasies” with you.

Gradually make your fantasies more and more naughty. You could start describing different positions that you’re “trying” out, maybe even talk about introducing her sex toys into the mix, and work you way up to the stuff that you would want her to try out with you.

The point is to open her mind up to new, more exciting possibilities and opportunities. And, remember … she’s not really doing any of these things with you. She’s only fantasizing about doing them with you … while you’re having regular sex. (You’re talking about certain scenarios – whispering them into her ear – while you’re having sex.)

So, all of this can feel “safe” and comfortable for her. And, that is the key to letting her naughtiness come out more and more, into the real world.

All of this can also nicely lead into having conversations with her – after sex – where the two of you can exchange more fantasies. You can encourage her to share her wildest or “secret” fantasies, without judging her or even wanting her to act them out in real life.

How To Charm A Woman In Bed Lesson # 4 – Get Help From Hollywood

If you’re like most guys, who hate watching “chick flicks,” you may be missing out on some “secret intel” straight from her mind.

Classic movie favorites of women … like Pretty Woman, 9 1/2 Weeks, The Notebook, and so on can give you lots of ideas, as well as actual step-by-step scenarios of what turns your woman on.

Ask her what her favorites are, and start watching them with her. While you watch these movies, secretly (read: subtly) pay attention to what gets her going.

Watch her body language, shifts in her breathing, etc. and make note of what it is in the movie that gets her going. Is it what was done, how it was done, what was said, what the guy was wearing (a uniform, etc.) and so on.

Oh, by the way … if you happen to see something that the female in the movies does that is hot, you could mention that too, in a subtle way. You’ll be subtly letting her know what you are “secretly” fantasizing about or get turned on by. And, don’t be surprised if she pulls out that move on you the next time you have sex.

Again, remember .. the point of all this is not to tell or even ask her to do anything. (Not yet.) Instead, it’s to get her mind thinking in certain ways … and to eventually allow her to do some of that stuff while fully believing that it’s her idea, choice, and decision.

How To Charm A Woman In Bed Lesson # 5 – Use Moments of “Permissible Behavior”

There are certain times and situations in life where a woman feels she has been given permission to be, feel and act sexier … or at least dress more provocatively.

Halloween is a great example where women believe that it is okay by society to be more flirtatious, dress sexier or even sluttier … and no one will think twice about her doing so.

You see, women want to do this. They want to go a little crazy and have fun in this way. But, according to society, it’s “wrong” or “unlady-like” to do any of those things. They don’t get to do this much, especially not in public.

So, women look for those moments and opportunities of “permissible behavior” where they can dress, act and be sexier than they normally would … and be comfortable doing so, out in public.

Well, guess what … you can take advantage of those moments where she feels society has given her permission to be more open with her femininity and her sexuality. But, you don’t have to wait for Halloween. You can use any opportunities and events where “dressing up” is required.

Parties, themed events, masquerade balls, etc. are happening all the time around you.

Look for such events and encourage her to dress as provocatively as she is comfortable doing. Obviously, the more you encourage and cheer her on, and the more you tell her just how “hot” she would look in certain outfits, the more inclined she will be to try it out.

Remember, as advised in a previous section… you wouldn’t want to beg, pressure, or force her into it. This stuff has to be approached and presented in a fun and adventurous way. And, while you’re out having fun at the party, let her go a little crazy and just have fun with her “role” for the night.

Let her flirt with other guys too. Don’t worry, she’s going home with you, so get rid of the insecurity if it’s there, at least for one night.

When you do finally get home after the party, she may just decide to continue playing her “wicked witch” or “sexy nurse” role in the bedroom … with some help and encouragement from you, of course.

Here’s a monster tip that most guys will never know about: If you can make a woman feel hot and sexy about herself, she will often surprise you with just how hot and sexy she can really be – with you.

How To Charm A Woman In Bed Lesson # 6 – Dress Up and Role Play

Now you take the dress-up and role-playing to the next level. You can start introducing it into your everyday life – and sexual encounters … without needing Halloween or some other event as an excuse. Obviously, you will have to start this game.

Remember all those “chick flicks” and romantic movies you watched with her earlier? Use them as inspiration to dress up like someone that got her attention. So, break out that uniform… for a marine, police officer, fireman, doctor… whatever would work specifically for her. Surprise her with this one day, and make the experience all about her pleasure.

And, don’t even mention anything about having her repay the favor in any way, by dressing up for you (unless she insists and tries to get outfit ideas from you.) Let her do that on her own. Women love to get creative and add their own personal touch, without your having to tell them or influence their creative ideas in any way. (Remember, she has to feel that it is her decision to do this stuff.)

So, again … don’t be too surprised if she pulls out the sexy secretary fantasy on you, in real life. Just go along with it, and enjoy every moment of it.

Most important of all, remember that none of these tips and techniques are designed to make her “jump” from one extreme to another. She won’t go from super conservative to nymphomaniac overnight. You need to build on each stage progressively, and give her mind enough time to adjust and get comfortable with the previous “sexy” stage, before you take things up another notch.

So, don’t get greedy … and enjoy the ride as it continues to get more and more exciting … and naughty …

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