How To Charm Women – 30-Second Seduction Secrets

Women say that they know whether or not they will sleep with a guy, within the first 10 seconds of meeting him. They also say that once they have made up their mind about him, they rarely change it. Mainly because the guy often proves them right, by continuing to do or say things that take him further and further away from the possibility of ever seeing her naked.

Wow … ten seconds … that seems kinda harsh and even premature, doesn’t it? But, fear not. Just because most men end up proving her right beyond those first 10 seconds doesn’t mean that you have to do the same. And… the fact that women wait beyond the first 10 seconds to see if the guy recovers means that they are willing to give him another chance (or two) to make up for his initial mistakes.

Maybe you’re meeting her for the very first time. Maybe you’re flirting with her from a distance. Or maybe you’re on that first date and want to impress her right away. Whatever the situation may be … with this report in your arsenal, you’ll start to sway her “likeness” meter towards you within the first 10 to 30 seconds of meeting her.

You’ll learn what to do – as well as what not to do – within those first 30 seconds, to impress her, attract her, and be on your way to seducing her. What you do after that is up to you, though.

First Look

So, you’re out somewhere, maybe at that hot, new club… or just at the grocery store. It doesn’t matter where. If you’ve just noticed her, chances are she has already seen you…and she has started to size you up. Most men’s brains somehow get switched off when they see an attractive woman, and they start doing some very weird things.Moreover, they don’t realize that they’re being weird, or just how weird their actions are, until they revisit those moments in their head, much later in the day or week. (Other men never get it, and they continue to do the same weird things over and over…and keep striking out.)

Many of these weird behaviors tend to give off the “stalker” vibe. Or they just make you look desperate, horny, and maybe even immature. In other words, all of those unconscious behaviors help to push her away from you. So … first of all, don’t stare, especially not from a distance. If you’re in a grocery store or bookstore, don’t circle her aisle/row over and over either.

The longer you stick around staring and fumbling, without doing anything, i.e. without approaching her and saying something, the more weird you’ll appear, and the less ‘social value’ she will attach to you. If you can’t think of anything else to do or say, at least get close enough to say “Hello” or “How are you?” within the first 5 seconds…in a casual manner, with a smile… even if you have to walk away afterwards to think of what to say next.

The key here is to say something casual and friendly to her within the first 5 to 10 seconds of seeing her for the first time… OR… stop looking/staring towards are, and even walk away – and let her wonder where you disappeared to. It’s always better if she comes around looking for you again than to circle around her without saying anything, and creep her out in the process.

How To Charm Women – Appreciation versus Arousal

When you do look at an attractive woman, even if you’re seeing her for the very first time, train yourself (by practicing) to look at her as if she were a flower, or tree, or even a painting. Why? Because, as mentioned earlier, when most men see a beautiful woman, they have no idea how they appear to her. They don’t realize what exactly they’re doing, and projecting, or how they look.

Most of the time, the woman sees the guy as overly anxious, fumbling, excited, desperate, or even horny. Your jaw may be on the floor, you may stare too long, run into something, etc. (Read: You may be treating her like a piece of meat, without realizing that you’re doing it.)

So… when you practice looking at her the way you do when appreciating other beautiful things (read: things that you don’t want to undress and jump into bed with,) you will give off the energy of someone who acknowledges her ‘outer’ beauty, but isn’t already head-over-heals for her (read: stalker vibe,) without even finding out who she is as a person.

In other words, you’ll give off the aura/energy that you have been around – and have even dated – beautiful women before. And, that would immediately raise your social value in her eyes … and it will separate you from all the other men that are staring at her, or have stared at her in the past. In other words, it makes you more attractive in her eyes … even before you have said a word to her.

How To Charm Women: Loosen Her Up

This is another no brainer way to get her to start liking you immediately. Yet, for some reason, most guys don’t use it…or they wait until they’re put on the spot to think of what to do. I’m referring to humor, of course. Making her laugh is one of the best ways to loosen up right away and get her to warm up to you quickly.

But, as I stated above, most guys wait until they are in front of the woman …  and that’s when they struggle to come up with something funny to say. Obviously, whatever they come up with tends to usually sound forced, stupid, or even off-color. So, prepare ahead of time. Come up with some funny jokes or one-liners that you can use within the first 10 seconds of meeting her.

If you’d like to appear more spontaneous – and not look like you had prepared in advance, you can think about where you’re going to go… a club, grocery store, bookstore, park, whatever… and then, come up with some funny comments or observations you could make in those particular locations. In other words, you can still prepare your jokes or funny comments ahead of time, and yet come across as spontaneous or naturally funny – if you prefer to come across in that way.

Important: Stay away from jokes or comments that are sexual, political, religious, and especially racial. If you happen to offend her by making fun of her religion, ethnicity, political views, beliefs, etc. you will have a very difficult time trying to get her to like you again.

Treat Others Well

Men who appear to be jerks for no apparent reason will only attract women that are the clingy, insecure, drama queen types. All the sane women will avoid you like the plague, if you treat others around you harshly. It won’t even matter if you treat her like a princess while you’re being a jerk to everybody else. That’s in fact worse, because she’ll assume that you’re only being nice to her to get into her pants. In other words, she’ll assume that your default setting is that of a jerk.

On the other hand, doing little things like thanking the door man, smiling and/or being nice to a cashier who is obviously tired and frustrated, or even forgiving the server’s mistake, will make you more attractive in the woman’s eyes. This does not mean that you have to become a pushover. It simply means that you can understand and appreciate the daily struggles of other people, and you can empathize with them. It also means that you can maintain your composure, and keep your cool, if little things go wrong.

Treating others well actually shows your strength rather than your weakness, unlike what most men would believe. It’s easy to be a jerk. Anybody can be one. But, it takes a real man to appreciate, understand, and treat others well. And real women find it to be a very attractive quality.

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