How To Charm A Woman – Handling Other Men

This one is not about being macho. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. If you’re with a woman that you’re interested in, even if you’re meeting her for the first time, be very careful about how to react around other men, especially the men that she knows. Let’s say that you met a woman at the club, you walked up to her and started chatting her up. But, you didn’t realize that she had another guy friend around…whether or not he is someone that she has known for long.

And, pretty soon, the guy comes around…or she pulls him from the side and introduces him to you. Now … this guy could be someone that she has only known for 5 minutes, it could be her best friend, or it could even be her boyfriend. You don’t know who he really is to her. And, she likes it that way. So, when she does introduce him to you…or even if he just shows up suddenly, how you react and interact with him will dictate whether she starts to like you more…or less.

The bottom line is, act civilized, even if you do find that the guy is her boyfriend. (She may very well be about to break up with him. You just don’t know. So don’t blow your potential opportunity.) Don’t lose your cool, don’t get jealous, don’t try to be macho nor get into a pissing contest with him, and definitely don’t be a jerk to him. She may very well be testing your metal, by introducing you to another guy. So, smile, keep your cool, and just have fun.

Don’t Fall In Love! Are You Kidding? No, Sir, No.

This is a mistake most guys continue to make, and they just don’t realize how quickly and strongly it repels a woman away from them. Remember the stalker vibe we referred to earlier? It’s when guys start seeing (and staring) at a women like she’s an angel descended from heaven, even if they know nothing about who she really is.

In other words, they tend to “fall in love” with her, or put her on a pedestal, without knowing anything about her. What they’re really doing is broadcasting to the woman that they’re very inexperienced, immature, and that they haven’t been around women much – if at all. So… don’t act like you want to marry her already, or that you’re madly in love with her…or even that you want to make her your girlfriend… especially if you’ve just met her.

Get to know her a little more (and show her that this isn’t your first time.) You can flirt with her a little. But, don’t do too much, and be sure to take it away from time to time. You should have your own opinions when talking to her, i.e. don’t agree with everything she says, and don’t kiss up to her.

You can even poke fun at her a little. This will actually help to attract her more to you, believe it or not. But, don’t over-do it. (And, as her attraction for you grows, your poking fun at her should diminish.) Most guys would never dare do this stuff, which is all the more reason for you to do it … and it’s also why this stuff works so well to help in attracting her to you.

Show a Little Vulnerability

We’ve already established that pretending to be macho is not the way to go. And…we’ve also discussed how you can actually show strength by treating others (around you) well. Now, you can showcase your “sensitive side”… by sharing an ’embarrassing’ secret, but don’t go too crazy on the embarrassing scale. (It can’t be something that will turn her off.)

For example, you could say something like …

“Okay, I have a confession to make…. I may have cried just a little, while watching The Titanic. And, if you tell anybody about this, I will hunt you down and tickle you to death!”

She may laugh at you for revealing this so-called “embarrassing” moment. But, she will secretly like you even more for having cried, and especially for having ‘shared/revealed’ that ‘secret’ to her.

What Is The Art of… Hugging Has To Do With How To Charm A Woman?

Something as simple as a hug can tell so much about you, to the woman you’re hugging. When men hug a woman they are attracted to, they either tend to give a very anemic and quick hug, which makes the woman feel a bit self-conscious… or they hug her with the intensity and aroused energy (read: too long and too overt) that creeps her out.

So, how the heck should you hug her, especially if you’re hugging her for the very first time? Simple. Pretend you’re hugging a good friend, or even a family member. (Pick someone that you actually like.) When you hug her in this way, you could even make it last longer than what most guys will do and still not creep her out. In fact, she will probably feel the positive energy and connection with you, just from that hug. (That’s a great start for you.)

Obviously, don’t make the hug too long or too short. If you can’t figure out how long it should be, hold on to her until the very moment that you feel her starting to relax and unlock. You can basically mirror her release and start to pull away around the same time. Shaking hands for the first time can also be approached in a similar way.

How To Charm A Woman: Show Your Moves. Err, Dance Move, That Is.

For some reason, women associate your dancing ability to how good you’ll be in bed. Hey, whether this theory is true or not, it seems logical on the surface level, doesn’t it? Besides, you’re probably smart enough to know not to argue with a woman about these kinds of things. So … if you tend to go to the club often, or if you prefer meeting women there, you’d better learn to dance. No, you don’t have to be as good as one of J-Lo’s backup dancers. Just learn to move to – and flow with – the music.

And, you can actually get away with dancing slower, as long as you’re rhythmic and moving with the overall beat. If the music is faster than you’d like it to be, you can still dance slower, i.e. at half the speed of the music. It will still look fine as long as you’re in sync with the music and not off beat.

If you can’t seem to get the hang of it on your own, take a class or two so you can learn the basics. That’s really all you need. Remember, it’s not about how many new moves you can show off. The key is to move in time with the music, and to be comfortable while doing it.

Getting That Drink

While we’re on the subject of clubs and bars, your ability to get the bartender’s attention quickly can also rack you some major attraction points, immediately. Yes, I know it’s silly. But, for some reason, many women are impressed by this skill. And, in their mind, they tend to attach more social value, and respect, to you.

I suppose, in some ways, how quickly you can get the bartender’s attention relays how well you can relate to people in general, how assertive and confident you are around others, or whatever. And listen, you may not necessarily be getting the drink for her when you attempt to flag the bartender. You may be doing it for yourself and/or for your friends… and she may just happen to be in the area, without your realizing or knowing about it.

Then, later that evening, you may notice her and try to talk to her. And, for some reason – unknown to you, she may not be too interested in you. (Yes, these little incidents are always revealing your true personality to women around you, without your realizing it. And, these little things can all help or hurt your chances of seducing her later.)

Stand Out From The Pack: Really Stand Out!

Many of the tips I’ve already shared in this report will also help you to stand out of the crowd, i.e. it will separate you from most of the other guys out there. That, in itself, can make you appear more attractive in the eyes of women. But, you can separate yourself from the crowd from the very beginning, even before you go up and talk to a woman. (Remember, she may start sizing you up before you approach her, so your 10 seconds may often start sooner than you think.)

A great, and powerful, way to stand out among other men is to dress in a slightly different way from everybody else. (But, you don’t have to go overboard with this.) Just one item or accessory can add that “bam” effect to your look… whether it’s a cool funky tie, a hat, glasses/shades, or whatever.

The basic rule here is, do not dress to “blend in” with the rest of the crowd. If you do, you’ll end up being just another chump among the dozens (or hundreds) of others around her. Dressing just slightly different from everybody else will also make you appear unique, self-confident, and maybe even someone she can imagine herself having a lot of fun with.

Surprise Her: Surprise, Surprise, and More Surprises!

Another way in which you can grab her attention, and attract her to you, is to surprise her – in a positive way. There are lots of ways you can do this. Many of the things I’ve already shared above have a little bit of the surprise and uniqueness elements built into them.

Another simple way to do it is to plan something different for your first date, or meeting, with her. If all you do is stay away from the ‘dinner, drinks, and a movie’ theme, you’ll already be off to a good start. Think of something fun, but not too crazy. Taking a fun class together, or checking out a gallery, museum, fair, carnival, etc. can work well. Remember, don’t go overboard with this. And, definitely do not do something too romantic or serious. It’s your first date, so keep it light and fun.

Whether you’re exchanging glances from across the room, meeting her for the first time, or even going out on that very first date, the tips and advice I’ve shared above will get her to like you, be attracted to you more, and even be willing to take things further than she would have otherwise. And, you’ll be able to do all of it within the first 30 seconds of interacting with her, maybe even before you walk up and start talking to her.

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